One thing that caught me by surprise when I started this whole glow up journey was realizing that I fel lonely because I didn’t even have myself.
I wasn’t my own cheerleader.
I didn’t take action for myself.
I didn’t show up when it mattered most.
I wasn’t there for me—and that truth shook me to my core.
It was like a punch to the gut, realizing that the person I needed most—me—was missing in action.
So, I want to ask you something, something that could change everything:
Do you have your own back?
Let me know in the comments!
I Don’t…
If I’m being honest, I still don’t always have my own back.
It’s a hard truth to admit, but I self-sabotage constantly. I set goals that light me up with excitement—promising myself that this time I’ll stick to them—but they’re so often left untouched. They sit, gathering dust, while I avoid the very actions that would bring them to life.
I dream endlessly about a better version of myself, a future that feels vibrant and fulfilling. I can see her clearly in my mind—a woman who moves through life with ease and confidence.
But dreaming is easy. Doing? That’s where I fall apart. Those dreams remain just that—dreams—because I don’t follow through.
The truth is, I never learned how to show up for myself. Not really.
Sure, I can talk about what I should do. I can make to-do lists and plan my perfect day.
But when it comes to taking action that honors who I am and what I want? I hesitate. I freeze. I default to the comfort of staying small because I’ve spent so long doubting whether I’m worth the effort.
And it’s lonely, this place of not having your own back.
It’s exhausting to carry the weight of unmet expectations, to keep hoping for a better tomorrow while quietly letting yourself down today. It feels like running in circles, hoping each lap will be the one where you finally break free.
But I’m Trying…
I’m learning—slowly, clumsily, imperfectly—how to show up for myself.
Some days, it looks like choosing the harder path because it aligns with my goals.
Other days, it’s as simple as offering myself kindness when I’d usually drown in self-criticism.
If you’ve ever felt like this—like you don’t have yourself—I want you to know you’re not alone.
And if you’ve found ways to break free from this cycle, to show up for yourself in ways that count, I would love to hear from you because honestly, I am still struggling myself.
And the truth is you deserve to have your own back. We both do!
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Here’s to showing up for yourself every day, I’ll see you tomorrow!
